Here are my sermon notes from Sunday nights message dealing with Sex and Marriage in 1 Corinthians 7. Several people from the church have asked so I thought that I would post them here.
Paul’s Instructions Concerning Sex and Marriage in 1 Corinthians 7
- Married couples should meet each other’s sexual needs (7:1-9)
- Some people within the Corinthian church had apparently misinterpreted Paul’s earlier teaching to mean that they should not have sex.
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- They promoted total celibacy
- They may also have gotten this idea from the Essenes who were also celibate.
- But they had totally misunderstood what Paul’s point.
- Paul recognized that there is a benefit to being single and that sometimes it can lead to a greater concentration on the things of God.
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- v.7 “I wish that all were as I myself am.”
- v.26 “I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he is.”
- v.32-33 “I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife.”
- But he also recognizes that we are created with sexuality and that part of the purpose of marriage is to meet this basic human need (v.2-5)
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- Husbands and wives are not to deprive each other physically, except for short, special occasions.
- This may have addressed the fact that many Roman marriages were virtually celibate:
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- Romans marriages were most of the time arranged for social and economic reasons rather than for romantic purposes.
- Therefore, in many marriages the partners pursued their relationship as a business arrangement and sought sexual fulfillment outside of the marriage.
- Paul obviously, refutes this practice and shows that married couples should meet each other’s sexual needs.
- In marriage, sex should not be:
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- A reward for good behavior
- A tool to manipulate your spouse
- Married couples should stay married (7:10-16)
- Don’t let divorce be an option in your marriage (v.10)
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- Divorce was easy in Roman society
- All either party needed to do was to publicly announce to their spouse to “take their things and go.”
- Some in Corinth were divorcing their spouses because they were unbelievers.
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- Paul shows that this is contrary to the gospel.
- V.14 does not say that they unbelieving spouse is saved by their believing husband or wife, but rather that they are made “holy”
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- The marriage is recognized as valid by God and is therefore Holy.
- That means that we should treat it with reverence.
- They might be saved by the testimony of their believing spouse.
- 1 Peter 3:1 “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey that word, they without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives.”
- Divorce and remarriage is only permissible in two instances:
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- Unbelieving spouse leaves (v.15)
- Spouse commits adultery – “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9
- We could cut the number of divorces in America if we:
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- Gave kids better guidance in matters of dating and courtship
- Took divorce more seriously in the church:
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- It’s prevention
- It’s recovery
- Started to model Biblical marriages
- Took our vows a little more seriously – TIll death do us part (v.39)
- Married couples within the church need to allow that it is a valid option for some people to remain unmarried (7:36-38)
- There is a tendency among some in the church to assume that the normal and natural thing for everyone to do is to get married.
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- Paul would argue that the majority of people within the church should be married.
- But he does leave a life of celibate singleness as an option.
- Throughout this passage, he actually commends the single life— as long as one can remain celibate.
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- v.7 “I wish that all were as I myself am.”
- He gives two reasons:
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- Eschatological: v.25-28 explains that trouble of this age is the basis for this belief.
- Practical: v.32 “I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife.”
- As the church we need to be more balanced in what we teach about marriage:
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- We need to uphold the Biblical principles of marriage
- We also need to uphold the value of being single.